I'm Fine. We're Fine. Probably.
Aug 27, 2025
So it’s Elul now. The month where the air changes, just a little, but you can feel it. The month where the King is in the field. Where we’re asked to walk out and meet Him not dressed up, not polished, but as we really are.
And that’s exactly what this week’s Vessel podcast episode is about.
It’s called The Language of Emotions, and it’s a conversation with Devoiry Fruchter, who, if you’ve ever sat with her, you know is the master of the awkward pause.
You know the kind of pause I mean. The one that feels like it stretches too long, where you want to laugh uncomfortably or shift in your seat or jump in and fill the silence. But you don’t. You wait. And then something else starts to happen.
In that pause, the breeze of your own soul begins to move. Your own words start to rise. You realize you do have something to say, something you’ve been holding, maybe for years.
That’s what her clients discover again and again: their voice lives in the pause she's brave enough to hold.
Like the exhale of Elul. After the tight heat of summer, there’s that first cool wind. That breath of relief. The moment when the air finally shifts, and something inside you loosens with it.
At one point in our conversation, Devoiry said (paraphrased):
"Yeah....If your life is great, you should probably keep going and not take Vessel or work with me. Because the integrity of this work demands that you be ready to feel it all."
That’s the heartbeat of both her work and mine. Because for most of us, childhood taught us a very narrow vocabulary:
“I’m okay.”
“I’m happy.”
And if you weren’t those things, you learned to tuck it in. Hide it. Smile anyway.
But life is meant to be more than two words wide. Life is meant to be a whole language. A scale with more than one note. A palette with more than one color.
Devoiry’s journey into becoming a therapist was really about reclaiming that full language for herself and then holding the space for others to do the same.
And that’s what Vessel is too. Not making your life look prettier from the outside. Not tightening up the edges so you can keep pretending everything is “fine.” But learning to live in the truth of your actual experience. To let yourself feel the grief, the rage, the joy, the tenderness, the desire, the laughter. All of it.
This is why I think Elul is the perfect backdrop for this conversation. Elul isn’t about arriving perfect. It’s about showing up as-is. With the cracked pieces and the shining pieces. With all of yourself. It’s about pausing long enough to let your true voice come out, even if it trembles at first.
And because I know some of you are waiting for more details on how to join, workbooks for Vessel are already being printed so they can ship out early. The pre-sale launch is mid-September with a significant early registration discount. For everyone else who’s still sitting on the fence, formal registration opens the week after Sukkos, just before Vessel begins on October 25.
So here’s an invitation, let this time in Elul be your pause. Listen to this conversation with Devoiry, and notice what stirs in you. Notice what words rise when the silence gets long.
In the awkward spaces,
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