Meet Miss Calibrated.

She’s the part in me who loves genuine feedback. 

….Almost as much as Miss Aligned loves thinking she’s already right.

They’re best friends, obviously.

Miss Calibrated spent all last winter revisiting every line of Vessel and Ignite; not to make them trendier or flashier, but to make them better. To weave Torah more deeply into the fabric of my life and my work. 

I’ve been growing, evolving, changing.

Which is why, after five cohorts of teaching these courses, I decided it was time to redo every thread of content. Rewrite all the lectures, rerecord all the modules, because integration means constant recalibration.

I wanted my work to reflect that. 

Here’s a photo taken from the welcome call I did for Vessel October of last year: (awkward screengrab for the win)

Here’s another of me sitting at the same desk, recording our welcome call one year later:

See the difference?

I know, I know. I look so much younger in orange.

That’s what you get to see on the outside.

But whether obvious or not, change is the only constant in our lives. And if we welcome that, and honor that, these movements can take us to the most amazing of places. 

Change is almost never apparent on the surface. It takes years, sweat, blood and tears, to effect the kind of change that people actually NOTICE. 

The difference between these two pictures - sure, they’re a year apart. But the internal movement took a lifetime. 

A well-known Rebbi, a world-class mechanech of yeshiva boys who I’ve been very privileged to receive guidance from, once told me:

"Even the greatest Talmid Chacham, learning alone for a lifetime, has not yet achieved wisdom until they’ve allowed for their ideas to be tested in the presence of equals. Theory remains unproven, even your truths only become real, when allowed to withstand loving challenge."

The only way to know what you really believe is to let it be challenged, (respectfully, of course) and to defend it like a dissertation for your soul. 

There’s a famous story about Rabbi Yochanan and Reish Lakish, best friends and learning partners, who are two of the most quoted teachers in the Talmud. 

When Reish Lakish passed away, Rabbi Yochanan famously cried out,

אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: אוֹ חֲבוּתָא אוֹ מִיתוּתָא
“Give me companionship or give me death.”

He was given another learning partner, Rabbi Elazar ben Pedas. 

Rabbi Elazar was brilliant, but not the right fit.
Where Reish Lakish would argue, challenge, and sharpen, Rabbi Elazar would bring proofs, to substantiate and validate, to support and agree with his teacher.

“When I learned with him (Reish Lakish), he would question me twenty-four times, and I would have to give him twenty-four answers, and in the end, the halacha became clearer.”

Rabbi Yochanan didn’t want flattery from his chavrusa. He wanted friction, the kind that polished what he already knew to be truth.

Everything in the courses I teach and on the trainings I offer is open to challenge.

As evidenced a million times on podcasts and interviews I’ve publicly given, it’s relatively easy for me to laugh about making mistakes in public and I'm always happy to rethink a point of view. 

There’s a way to pose a challenge. With respect. With curiosity. With heart. And with a genuine desire for dialogue.

I cherish this kind of conversation.

Our beliefs and values make us passionate. Especially when someone has hit a nerve. Passion is great. But when it’s channeled improperly, it breeds disrespect and slammed doors.

And yes, I’m going to reference Charlie Kirk here. (Which will annoy some of you, and it’s also going to filter out who my people are.)

Charlie was a beautiful example of someone unapologetic in his beliefs and confident enough to speak about them in public.

His murder is what happens when people let their triggers override critical thinking; when passion turns toxic, and everyone else becomes the problem.

So, if you've read this far, thank you truly, for being an integral part of my global chavrusa. I may not know all of you by name or face, but your voices matter when it comes to refining, reflecting, and helping my inner Misses Calibrate and Align with the value system I strive to live by. 

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Registration for Vessel has officially closed. We reopen for Cohort 8 next October. If you missed this window, mark October 6, 2026. 

I’m so excited at where this cohort is already going. I get to watch people transform in real time and feel the room come alive with truth, curiosity, and connection. Every round refines me too, stretching, sharpening, and reminding me why I do this work.

And we’re just in Module 1! Eighth more weeks of unfolding and rediscovering and I can’t wait to see what’s next. 

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Want to know what’s next in my world?

Ignite, your course on Intimacy and the Embodied Jewish Woman, begins after Chanukah. There’s a special pre-sale happening during Chanukah, so you’ll want to watch out for that. 

Applications for Azamra, the year-long breathwork facilitator training, open in March.

It’s a full year of being challenged, refined, and held accountable in community, with love, care, compassion and support from people who get it.

Our facilitators commit to being both student and mirror: learning to guide others by first allowing themselves to be seen, stretched, and transformed.

Because real mastery isn’t about receiving a diploma.

It’s about being willing to be calibrated, again and again, until the truth we stand with can’t be separated from the soul of our work.

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Who is someone you can share this email with?

The ocean is only as powerful as the billions of droplets within. 

Let's start making waves, one drop at a time. 

That's how real change begins.