Ready to meet Miss Quoted?

It seems to be a week of introductions as I'm getting to meet all the new people who have recently found their way here. 

So let's begin with a warm welcome to all the newbies who have no idea what rabbit hole they have just stumbled down. I'm so excited you've chosen to invite me into your inbox. 

The emails I send out are written for those who are ready to take risks and figure things out along the way. Some of you totally get it. 

Some of you are here because you watched me on a podcast, know nothing about me, and yet already know you're ready for the mystery of becoming. We're going to have a great time together. 

Some of you got here by accident and are still waiting to see if this whole thing is worth it. That depends on how you define worth, worthy, and worth it. For me, it’s always been about presence, the willingness to keep showing up, even when it’s messy, uncertain, or inconvenient.

If you can do that, you’ll discover that this work, and your life, were never about being “worth it” to begin with. They already are.

And then there will always be those who have chosen to hang out because they have something to prove. The ones measuring me against a story they’ve already written. The ones who have decided what I must mean before I ever open my mouth, because they’re peering at me through the lens of their own stuff.

Meet Miss Quoted.

 Miss Quoted is the part of me that tails me wherever I go, no matter how articulate I try to be. She’s part of the liberal levels of projection people seem to cast over me like the chocolate spread my son Deeds loves on his waffles.

Take this email I received late Motzei Shabbos regarding my course Vessel:

"I would not choose to learn from someone whose Bais Yaakov trauma guided the way she developed her course — and only compiled Torah sources to substantiate what was already there. In fact, I would prefer to go to a non-Jewish training than to trust someone frum who went through the Bais Yaakov system and has not filtered the content through her Bais Yaakov hashkafos. Because then I run the risk of swallowing whole concepts that may not be emes and may be Buddhist in origin.

Which leads to something else. It was hard for me to hear that a frum woman sat in the audience while Buddhist concepts were spoken of and she didn't take offense. That’s avoda zara. If you had to sit through some apikorsus in order to learn something (I imagine with daas Torah), it would seem appropriate that at least your neshama takes offense at hearing it. Yehareg v'al yaavor!! And hearing it spoken about so lightly was offensive to me!!!"

Apparently, this was all understood from the Vessel Coffee Clarity Call I gave last Wednesday.

I reread the transcripts of the call, just in case I Miss Remembered what I had said.

But no.

I was just Miss Quoted. And Miss Interpreted. And Miss Understood… yet again.

Hazards of being human in public, I guess.

Here’s a snippet of the response I took the time to craft (and no, I don’t usually respond to emails, but this one felt important):

"When I speak about “Bais Yaakov trauma,” it’s not in rejection of the system or its values. It’s in acknowledgment that sometimes, even in the best institutions, good girls get hurt trying to be perfect. My own journey has been about reconciling love for Torah with compassion for the parts of ourselves that got silenced along the way.

I also want to clarify the Buddhist comment, since I see how that could have been misunderstood. The point I was making was actually the opposite of how it was interpreted. For years, I avoided mentioning Torah in professional settings because I thought that to be ‘credible,’ I had to stay purely psychological and leave religion out of it. Then I found myself at trainings where teachers spoke openly about Buddha or Eastern ideas without any hesitation — and I realized if they could stand unapologetically in their beliefs, why couldn’t (or shouldn’t) I? That was the moment I decided to start standing up for Torah as the ultimate source of wisdom, without watering it down to fit a secular mold."

If you're new here, you may not (yet) know what Vessel is, and I encourage you to do a few minutes of reading and find out more here before registration closes at midnight. 

If you've listened to the podcast I mentioned in my email yesterday, at around the 1 hour and 12 minute mark you’ll hear me talk about my evolving relationship with Torah...and maybe pick up on the discomfort I still feel speaking about it publicly. You’ll hear me joke about wanting to edit that part out, but ultimately, we chose not to.

See why here:
Also... please send the producers some love! Let them know how much you enjoyed the episode by leaving a comment!

 The dialogue I engage with in these interviews and within my courses is open, honest, and sometimes intense. It’s not the material you're used to coming from Bais Yaakov, and that’s the point. We're not teenagers anymore with an inability to filter or a need to be sheltered in the same way. 

This space is for seeking, questing, mature and growth-oriented adults who are ready to uplevel their understanding of Hashem, Yiddishkeit, themselves, and the world. 

We don’t skirt around the world; we meet it head-on. We talk about the real things, the messy things, and the holy things, through the lens of Hashem’s presence woven through it all. 

Vessel tends to attract people who crave that balance, awake, curious seekers who want to stay reaching for heaven while living fully on earth and holding the tension of the in between.

While I’ll probably be Miss Quoted and Miss Interpreted for lifetimes to come, that’s going to have to be a you thing to hold, not mine.

I’m already holding a little too much.

So yesterday, Miss Calculated misjudged the timing.
Today Miss Quoted was misinterpreted (again).
And Miss Understood is rolling her eyes and now going for a run.

You can still join Vessel until midnight. (You might get Miss Quoted, but you’ll be in the best company)

See you there!

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This email was written for two people - 

You might be the kind of person who has no idea what you're getting into, but you know how to jump in and trust we'll figure it out together.

And you might be someone a little quieter. Miss Judged. Hiding behind the fear of what others will think if you ever decide to actually choose yourself. 

I see you. 

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Vessel is open for both men and women and spouses join free.

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Last chance to join Vessel (for this year).

Keep in mind, Vessel is a pre-requisite for both my Azamra breathwork training and Hypnotherapy facilitation training. I get tens of emails asking how to apply to train with me. It starts in Vessel.

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Miss Understood, Miss Quoted, Miss Judged and Miss Calculated are all proud Miss Fits, but that doesn't preclude us from having our wins. 

Last night Dina (a Vessel first timer) shared:

"I was in tears after hearing your first Module. Finally, someone is speaking to my Inner Me... after suffering for years and years. I'm truly touched and so much looking forward for this Vessel Journey!"

Wait for Module 2 Dina! It just gets better!