Weaponized Wisdom
Jul 23, 2025
I wasn’t planning to send an email today. I’m knee-deep in some very cool surprises that are coming your way soon and I didn't think there would be time.
But I had a 20-minute tichel change break, and something happened that made me sit down and write anyway.
I read a post.
I don’t have social media, but I do have WhatsApp, where people regularly post psychobabble they’re not even remotely qualified to teach. Because apparently, ChatGPT and an online coaching certification have turned everyone into a guru these days.
I’m not going to screenshot the post (though G-d knows I was tempted), but the gist was this:
“You don’t actually hate me—you hate what I trigger in you.”
(Translation: So grateful for this reminder that I’m never wrong. Just misunderstood by the rest of you peasants.)
It’s not the first post like this I’ve seen. And to be clear, I’m not against shadow work. Not at all. I’m in fact, a huge fan. But there’s something deeply off about these curated one-liners claiming to be truth. They itch at something in me, and not in the "oooh let’s get curious" kind of way. More like, “stop weaponizing your half-digested self-awareness to avoid accountability.”
So, in honor of this moment, I’ve coined a new term. One you’re welcome to co-opt (just like you borrowed Belly Button Hour - thanks, Rach!):
Weaponized Wisdom.
It’s when someone uses psychology or spirituality to throw shade and shame you into silence, all while cloaking their judgment in the soft lighting of “growth.”
“You don’t really hate me… you hate what I awaken in you.”
No. Nope. Not at all.
Sometimes you hurt me.
Sometimes I’m reacting to actual harm, not projecting my unresolved trauma.
These kinds of posts aren’t about truth. They’re about laundering someone’s conscience through Instagram. A carefully curated performance of “healing” that dodges real accountability.
You could be standing there bleeding, and someone like this will hand you a quote graphic instead of a Band-Aid. And if you flinch, they’ll tell you you’re “resistant.”
That’s not healing.
That’s spiritual narcissism.
Artfully produced in Canva.
So I wasn’t going to email this week. But since this morning’s bathroom scroll put me on a soapbox, let me give you a little sneak peek at what is coming and what I've been busy with.
I’m launching a Vessel podcast mini-series.
Because I dislike promoting my own work. It feels cringey and self-aggrandizing. And also? I kind of stink at it. I’m too close to the content to give you a clear, unbiased picture of what it’s actually about.
So this summer, I’m doing things differently.
Instead of just promoting my upcoming course Vessel, I’m shining the spotlight on the people who live it - the alumni. The quiet legends. The cool kids you’ve never heard of because they’re not Insta-famous. They’re not writing posts that induce desperation to get you joining their programs.
They’re not weaponizing their wisdom. They’re just living it.
They’re professionals. Real ones. The kind who are too busy actually doing the work to spend their time churning out Canva quotes.
They believe in effort, in presence, in stringing together magic moments to create a magical life. Grit and grace and the long road home.
I’ve spent the whole day recording episodes, *this is why I needed a tichel change. Three of them to be precise. Because three episodes were recorded today and heaven forbid you see me in the same tichel each time. There’ll be eight in total, one for each module of Vessel. And I can't wait to start releasing them beginning mid-August.
Because you don’t deserve to be shamed into someone else’s narrative of “healing.”
You deserve to know you already have what it takes.
You deserve what’s real.
You deserve voices that echo your own.
Not psychobabble. Just the kind of truth you may have been waiting your whole life to hear out loud.
We’ve got you.
Until then,
Get to love those shadows. They make life fascinating enough to write memoirs about.
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